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Within the last half hour, you have probably had a conversation with yourself. unfortunately, statistics show that this conversation has probably been negative, self critical, self limiting, blaming yourself for past or future failures, or any number of self-destructive inner dialogues.
Our minds race along having inner dialogues constantly, without control and without direction.
But you can use this natural tendency to really boost your motivation, give your day a powerful lift before you even go out the door, or counter any negative emotion that threatens to cause you pain or impose false limitations upon yourself.
In other words, you can learn to carry on a self-conversation that will make you unbeatable. Unbeatable from any outside force or even from your own inner doubts and fears.
Here\’s how it works, choose a setting in which you won\’t be embarrassed. In the shower, in the car as you drive to work, while standing in front of the mirror. You can even take a walk in a park to have this conversation.
Now carry on both sides of a conversation about whatever is bugging you, or about any challenge you face.
Here\’s an example:
I\’ve got to get this big presentation ready by next Monday, but I keep putting it off. What can I do to get myself moving on this project?Come on, you know you have all the material to put it together, you are just letting yourself be overwhelmed by the size of the job, aren\’t you?
That\’s true, right now I have all this information scattered in five notebooks and it is an unorganized mess. I don\’t know where to begin.
That isn\’t true. You can begin someplace right now, even it if it is just getting al five notebooks together in one place. Why don\’t you put them on the table in the conference room?
Okay, I can do that. But I still feel overwhelmed.
Why don\’t you make a list of everything you can think of that could be included in the presentation. Sure this list will be too long, but you can edit it down once you see it all in front of you.
Okay, I can do that. In fact I\’m already starting to feel a little better.
Great. Now what else can you do right now to help you get this project done?
Self-conversations go back and forth, letting you address your fears, doubts and negative self-imposed limitations. I particularly love doing them in front of a mirror because I can see myself growing more confident and less stressed when I can view my own reflection.
Be sure to ask yourself positive questions that seek out solutions, like, “what can I do right now to help …?” or “how can I solve this problem ….?” Solution-seeking questions help you avoid blaming questions like, “Why didn\’t I ….?” which serve no good to help you through your situation.
At first you will feel a little strange carrying on a conversation with yourself, but you will quickly find that the answers to most of your problems are already within yourself. Oftentimes you only need to sort out your emotions from the facts before you can start moving forward again.
Just a few years after attempting suicide, Charles Brown has learned to literally “re-wire” and “re-program” his brain to achieve success in everything he attempts. He now teaches others how to use neuro-linquistic programming (NLP), subliminal technology, self hypnosis, and other methods to make major changes in their lives. He is the author of the free downloadable ebook, The Science of Change: How To Re-Program Your Mind and Transform Your Life. This ebook has 49 pages of transformational information and can be downloaded at http://www.geocities.com/chbrown56
